Here I go sticking my finger in a hornet’s nest. Comments will be moderately moderated. No vulgarities, cursing or ad hominem will be tolerated. I do intend to let opinions show, but this is not going to be a 4chan extension…
Let me say first off that I have not participated in any political campaign for or against same-sex marriage in any legislation. Likely that is because it hasn’t really come up as an issue where I vote.
Why I use the word “hobosexuality” is that, as this is the time of Internet 2.0 I can create new meanings for words that are in very limited use as of now. Were I compiling a dictionary or encyclopedia, the entry for “hobosexuality” in my book would look something like this:
Total abandonment of faithful relationships, widespread promiscuity and disregard for marriage, as is indicated by the divorce rate (esp. “no-fault” divorce) and the relative proportion of couples and singles having a regular sexual partnership and/or having children out of wedlock. “Hobo” -part here means that you wander around from one partner to another like a hobo wanders around geographical locations, often with no apparent purpose or plan.
Hence, I call what has been variously called “sexual revolution” or “sexual freedom” by the name hobosexuality, because it indicates the complete lack of persistency.
Why I’m bringing this up is that I see homosexuality being discussed much the same way any other liberal/conservative flash point; like this: The louder you make your opinion known, the more valid you and your yes-men think it is. But does that really reflect reality?
At any rate, it seems that for one reason or other, there are people, who feel or even know by experience that they can not enjoy a “normal” sexual relationship with a person of the opposite sex. I have no idea why this is, any more than I know why some people have very bad arthritic pains at very young age; some never seem to mature sexually; some are born with a defect that will cause them to have asthma and so on and so forth. The short answer would be, that it is all a part of our mortal life, how we are tested on this Earth (see Abraham 2:25). We all have weaknesses and faults, none of us was born perfect, and we all will have to experience the death of the mortal body.
I have been told by numerous people, that you can’t compare same-sex attraction with anything else. I say, that because I don’t have real experience, I can’t really say. Have you had my troubles? I think you will find it very difficult in the end to be convincing in the argument that you can not compare. I would say that mortal weakness is mortal weakness, and how we experience it is individual, but the nature of the weakness is universal. We all have a promise, that we will one day be restored in a perfect body — and it will be up to us to mold our mind/spirit so that we can appreciate it. We can not do it without our Savior Jesus Christ. Not one of us!
I read in Ether 12:27 that the Lord gives us weakness. Why we bear a certain burden is an unanswered question, and we can all come to our own conclusions by study and prayer. We have the channels of revelation open, unless we shut them ourselves. But remember what the Lord told Paul when the Apostle had asked to be healed?
How can we expect homosexual persons, who can not have a marriage complete with a healthy sexual relationship, remain celibate all their lives? Just the same as how we expect heterosexual persons, who haven’t found a mate, remain celibate in their mortal life. The price of discipleship is obedience. The promise is, that we will not be punished for having been unsuccessful in finding a suitable mate.
The thing that I most fervently wish to point out is, that a homosexual relationship is not really all that different from any other adulterous relationship between persons, whose marriage has not been sanctioned by God. However, I often hear people of my faith, among others, berate and castigate homosexuality and homosexual relationships in quite overwhelming ways (just the same as I hear some others berate and castigate the LDS Church for expressing an opinion against SSM). And based on my understanding, it doesn’t matter all that much who you’re messing around with, if you are in violation of the law of chastity. I don’t know that the Lord has reserved any special condemnation to same-sex relationships. In the Bible passages most often cited, homosexual acts seem to go along with all other acts that are in violation of the commandments of God. IMHO, nothing further needs be said. Wrong is wrong.
Should the law of the land recognize same-sex marriage as legally equal with traditional marriage, it would not really change the fact that the Lord has not instructed us to teach a different law of chastity to persons with same-sex attraction.
As I understand it, a part of the idea was always that Churches can keep their own definitions, and that most of the LGBT people don’t much care either way. Perhaps that impression is wrong? The question pointed out by those who put their weight against legalizing same-sex marriage is, “is the next step to start suing churches that don’t sanction same-sex marriage”? As I understand it, unless the church in question is a recipient of government funds, government has no authority to dictate to it how it defines marriage. Again, perhaps I am wrong? IANAL etc..
Questions I would like to ask proponents of same-sex marriage:
- Why is domestic partnership — where it is equal to marriage in all other regards except that it’s not called marriage — not enough? Is that word “marriage” really so magical to you or are you trying to “force” the opinion of others to comply with yours?
- Is it your plan to drive the churches that defend traditional marriage to courts so that they can get nothing done with lawsuits flying like bullets in the “Battle of the Bulge”? The way different movements in America have gone gives some positive exceptions to litigiousness, but they are few.
I also would like to plead for sane reasoning from all sides. By shouting past each other we can not come to any constructive results, but only create bad blood. My main argument is, that we should concentrate on our own weakness more than that of others.
If I have said something obviously wrong here, please tell me. I am really not trying to speculate about the origins of same-sex attraction nor about obscure legalistic points. I just want to be a good neighbor; I have lived in an apartment in a house owned by a gay man. He also lived in the same house, and I saw he was a good man, who was humble about his own weakness, and thus was very good at empathizing with others (perhaps that was one reason that made him shun traditional male roles — he couldn’t play the tough guy).